True Spirituality, Dealing with Addiction, and Self-Help Manuals

Dealing with addictions can push a Christian to the limits of patience, trust, and exhaustion. The addiction might involve drugs, alcohol, tobacco, food, sex, pornography, power, popularity, wealth, social media, technology, or recreation—and many more. Recovering addicts soon find that they need help—help from God, help from family, help from friends, help from their church. As the battle rages to control the addiction, it has become very common for counselors and addicts alike to turn to self-help manuals. Who hasn’t been helped at least a little by getting some good biblical advice from a significant book like Heath Lambert’s Finally Free,[1] which deals with pornography and lust?… Continue reading

Conflict of Interest: Resolving Conflict One “Fear” at a Time

ArgumentsDo me a favor. “Put your finger in this webpage” and jump over to Facebook or Twitter, whichever you find yourself using the most. Don’t be shy. You have an account. I know you do. You probably found this article through one of those mediums. Now . . . what do you see? It’s likely I would get many different responses from people, because everyone’s feed is filled with different content. But you know what I see? Controversy. That’s what stands out more than anything. I bet you agree with me. Contention. Dissension. Conflict. You can’t hide from it.Continue reading

28 Things You Didn’t Know About “Christian” Psychology

counselingLike any pastor, I make it a major discipline in my life to read a lot. I must; I cannot allow my tools to grow dull. And, like any pastor SHOULD, I spend a significant portion of my week counseling the flock of God. Of course, that means a significant portion of my regular readings come from books on counseling. At any given time, I’m always working through five or more books to help me diagnose the soul and apply biblical principles to the hearts of the hurting, weary, or fainthearted. It is in fact a sad reality that many pastors have absolved themselves from the responsibility to counsel.… Continue reading

Pillars of Biblical Counseling

201003_028_ChristianCounselIf you’re struggling with a besetting sin that seems to keep on defeating you, where can you turn for strength to overcome? If you’re trying to help a friend who is in despair, heal a broken marriage, or aid a believer who struggles with anorexia or pornography, what source of power can you point to that can surely change them? As I interact with various people about spiritual growth issues (e.g. depression, anger, spiritual disciplines, worry, God’s will, marriage, parenting, etc.), I have found that there is power in biblical counseling. I hope to encourage believers who crave for true, biblical change by identifying what I have been taught from the Scripture and godly men as the power behind biblical counseling.… Continue reading

“Be Anxious for Nothing.” Why? – Part 2

hello-my-name-is-anxiety“Be anxious for some things.” Oops! Did I misquote that verse? A lot of people struggle greatly with the reality of that statement. It’s a rather stark command considering our culture and the “Christian” psychology’s influence on biblical counseling. Yes. I am drawing a hard distinction between the two, which will probably end up being another blog post given the natural interest in the subject and considering Rick Warren’s recent proclamation that he’d be working with the Roman Catholic Church to address the widespread problem of “mental illnesses.” That is something I want to address thoroughly, at a near future date.… Continue reading