have been on my heart for some time, which is likely because I am one of
you. I am a relatively young man (i.e.
under 40), who is also a Christian, a husband, and a father. You are my peers. And I am writing to you today, because seldom
a day goes by where I am not reminded that we all have a whole lot to learn.
Let me share a little more about myself before I get to the reason for this letter. I am fast-approaching 39 years of age and have been married for nearly 19 years. Yes, I married young. Too young, in fact. But God is sovereign and good, and so despite “many dangers, toils, and snares” in our marriage we are pressing on by grace toward another nineteen years and then some. I have made many mistakes along those 19 years as a husband (which I’ve written about in years past), some of them I’m still coming to understand and still trying to correct. You would think that there would be little grace left for a husband like me, but God is an infinite God and his grace is an infinite grace. For that I am most grateful.… Continue reading
What is the greatest commandment? Jesus answers, “YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.’” and “YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.” (Matthew 22:37 & 39). Although the Pharisees tried to box him into a situational answer, to set him up for failure,  Jesus both corrects and dodges them pointing out the foundational reason for every commandment: devotion to the Lord.
Jesus answer addresses the true reason for every commandment: worship. The use of ‘love’ in this text, conveys the idea of worship and devotion. To live is Christ.… Continue reading
Nowhere is the Gospel more needed than in a marriage. Two sinners pledging their lives to one another is not exactly a recipe for satisfaction and blessing, but for the grace of God. Scripture tells us that marriage was intended by God to function as a living breathing illustration of the Gospel (Eph 5:22-33). What this means is that for a marriage to operate as the Lord intends for it to operate, a man and his wife must be breathing in the oxygen of the Gospel on a daily basis and actively pursuing ways to work its truths into their relationships with one another.… Continue reading
Yesterday, my wife Noelle and I celebrated our seventeenth wedding anniversary. It’s an utterly remarkable thing to us, especially considering the fact that just eight years ago we were estranged from one another and headed for a divorce.
We had been married for nine years at that point. By the summer of 2009, I found myself regularly pleading with the Lord to save our marriage, as we were in really bad shape. We didn’t trust one another. We weren’t listening to one another. We weren’t handling the pressure of life and ministry well. And we were desperately trying to maintain the appearance of having it all together. … Continue reading
Yesterday and today I posted a wholly inadequate, there is so much more that can be said, two part series on holiness in marriage. Today I will address the roles of the husband, the wife, and the couple in marriage, yesterday I addressed some basics about marriage and holiness. These posts are adapted from my seminar on holiness in marriage at the 2016 Grace Advance Mid Atlantic Equipping Conference. The audio from all of the conference sessions is available here.
The Role & Responsibility of the Husband – To Love and Lead His Wife
The primary role and responsibility of the husband is to love his wife.… Continue reading