I have prepared myself for this moment for some time, warned the church, and now write it out. We have to counsel divorce when addressing a repentant homosexual. Now, let’s be clear. When our friend got “married,” he did not really get married in God’s eyes. For God defines marriage between man and woman, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh” (Matt. 19:5).
Nothing can change His definition. We either follow His design or continue to rebel against Him.
The great part about a gracious and loving God is this, He saves sinful people and yes, homosexuals too. We who believe, love everyone, we don’t hate the homosexual (or any sinner for that matter). But our war with them is not over their sexual preference, it’s over their broken state before God. We are not merely interested in getting them to like the opposite sex — tons of unbelievers prefer the opposite sex and she is no more right before the Lord then her homosexual brother. But God, He saves the vilest of the vile. In fact, if we who believe don’t see ourself as the vilest of the vile then we don’t get our sin and sirens should sound warning us of pride (but, you’d find good company with the Pharisees).
“Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God” (1 Cor. 6:9-11).
This is the great news of the Gospel! God saves sinners. He saves people who are broken in their sexual expression, lusts, desires, and lifestyles. But God demands we repent from our sin, abandon our lifestyle, submit and follow Him.
“He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me; and he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. He who has found his life will lose it, and he who has lost his life for My sake will find it.” — Jesus (Matthew 10:37-39).
Therefore, this brings us to one point. Be prepared to tell a man or woman she must legally divorce from her spouse who is not her spouse in God’s eyes.
We must recognize the state has officially declared him and him married with legal rights and responsibilities to each other. Because of this, we have to counsel that repentance requires abandoning his spouse because he is not really his spouse. This person may have to live with child support, spouse support, and all the messy results coming from divorce. That stinks. People have to live with the results of their sinful choices, it’s reality. The beauty for the believer is God no longer holds those sins against us, we are purified, white as snow, with a seat in heaven reserved for us that no power on earth (SCOTUS, POTUS, or anyone) can take away from us. So press on and be prepared.